Hi, I’m new here…

Starting therapy can feel like standing at the edge of something unfamiliar. Maybe you're excited. Maybe you're nervous. Maybe you're not even sure what you're feeling—just that something inside you needs to get the fuck out.

Wherever you’re starting from, you’re welcome here. Here are a few things that might be helpful to know before beginning therapy—whether you’re new to the process, returning after a break, or just curious about what to expect.

You don’t need to have it all figured out

Its actually my preference that you don’t have anything figured out. And you don’t even need a specific reason to start therapy. I love nothing more than taking the junk drawer and dumping everything out on the floor and sorting through it. As a kid, my favorite part about Halloween wasn’t eating the candy, it was sorting through all of it at the end of the night. You might be feeling overwhelmed, lost, anxious, stuck—or just know that something in your life needs to shift. That’s enough. We’ll figure the rest out together.

Therapy is a relationship, not a fix

This work isn’t about “fixing” you—it’s about understanding you. Therapy is a collaborative relationship built on trust, reflection, and shared goals. You’re the expert on your life; I’m here to walk with you, ask meaningful questions, and help you make sense of things. Sometimes part of growth is getting called out on your bullshit too. But don’t worry, ’ll be soft about.

It's okay if it feels awkward at first

Much like stepping into the high school cafeteria at lunchtime and trying to find a place to sit, spilling your guts can feel exposing. It might feel weird to talk about yourself this openly, especially with someone new. That’s totally normal. The important part is showing up. Comfort and trust grow with time. And believe me, there isn’t anything I haven’t heard.

You can ask questions

Not sure what something means? Want to understand a term I used? Curious about how therapy actually works? Ask away. Your questions are always valid.

You’re allowed to be exactly as you are

Come as you are—messy, quiet, emotional, confused, numb, uncertain, angry, hopeful. All parts of you are welcome here. Therapy is not about performing; it’s about being honest, even if that honesty is “I don’t know.”

Change takes time—and that’s okay

Growth isn’t always linear. Some weeks will feel like big steps forward, and others might feel like standing still. That’s part of the process. Therapy honors the pace your mind, body, and story are ready for.

Final Thought

Starting therapy is an act of courage. Whether you’re reaching out for the first time or trying again after a hard experience, this is a powerful step toward understanding and honoring yourself more deeply.

If you're thinking about starting therapy and have questions, feel free to reach out. I’d be honored to meet you exactly where you are.